Better Thoughts, Better Experiences

“Life will give you whatever experience is most helpful for the evolution of your consciousness. How do you know this is the experience you need? Because this is the experience you are having at the moment." ― Eckhart Tolle

It has been a bit between interviews in my Ohio job search this past couple of months and I was preparing for one this morning. In the past, I would get extremely nervous about the questions that might be asked by the interviewer. Would I know the answer? If I did, did I answer it effectively and with enough confidence? I would fill my head with all of the unknowns, which of course produce anxious feelings. Being nervous or anxious during an interview can sometimes be unavoidable but not inevitable. My strategy has changed dramatically with this new phase of life.

I've heard it said from others with regards to the interview process, that it should be looked upon as a conversation. I now actively take on that mindset while in preparation for my meeting. Another practice to implement is taking away the unknowns to lessen some of the nervousness.  Instead of thinking about the unknowns, I concentrate on the certainties. It is certain that the experience will help me grow. It is certain that during our conversation I will learn what the company's needs are. It is certain that I will assess if I am a good fit for the position. It is certain that I will have put my best foot forward while staying true to my character. It is certain that whatever the outcome, be it a rejection or approval, everything will work out for the better.

I believe that's how life ultimately works. With time and experiences, we tend to get better at things. With regards to the quote by Eckhart Tolle, I consider it to mean that every experience you have makes you better prepared for the next, better equipped for the unknown, better at recognizing the lesson, and better at appreciating the miracle of life itself.

"Accept - then act. Whatever the present moment contains, accept it as if you had chosen it. Always work with it, not against it.” 
― Eckhart Tolle

Just as we get better with time and experience, we can also improve upon other things in our lives. When it comes to the vintage furniture pieces I find, I strive to make them better than when I found them; gently coaxing a new identity out for them that will generate good feelings for the new owner. Leaving things better than when you found them can be such a worthy goal and universal good.

I picked up these two vintage end tables from a second-hand store that specialized in older, repaired appliances.  The store owner and his colleague couldn't have been more pleasant as we discussed the advantages of using older appliances that continue to perform the same basic functions that newer, more expensive appliances do. This conversation automatically made me recall seeing a commercial for a refrigerator with a see-through door feature. Really?? How everyday people benefit exponentially from alleviating the burden of actually opening the refrigerator door to find out what's inside will always remain a mystery to me. Alas, this could be a whole other topic for another blog post so I won't stray too far from my original subject. What this man does is make the appliances he comes across better than when he found them by repairing and replacing damaged parts; I find that to be a valued service and very commendable at the same time.


(These tables were in great shape as I was thrilled to find out that the tops were solid maple. Since I've been reimagining vintage finds, I've grown such an appreciation for well-made furniture that has superior materials.)

After a certain length of time, I find I have the urge to paint with black and white when the need strikes me. It's a strong combination and perhaps that's the time when I'm feeling particularly strong when I feel compelled to work with those colors. Black can be such a great way to emphasize details and that's what I chose to do on this occasion. Having restraint to use it sparingly but strategically was the goal. The houndstooth pattern is a favorite of mine and was a beautiful blend of antique grey and vintage white. It was a bold decision to use a whitewash pickling stain for the maple top and I couldn't be more pleased with how it turned out.



Isn't that what we all strive to do, make things better? By sharing our innate gifts with the world, we can help make things better for everyone including ourselves. What gifts can you think of to share with others? Everyone has gifts to give, some may be hidden but they are always there waiting to be discovered and developed. 

I thought I would attach a great 80's tune, The Whole of The Moon by The Waterboys. It gives a sense of how big life can be, how we can choose to make every day better than the one before, and remain limitless! 

The Whole Of The Moon - The Waterboys

Always stay classy,

Julie Hickman

Project Vintage US

Thank you for taking the time to read my blog post and feel free to leave your thoughts and comments. I started writing pieces and posts to prove to myself I could articulate my thoughts in a way that made sense. I realized soon after that it was somewhat therapeutic to express my thoughts about life's mysterious twists and turns as well as all the wonderful lessons we learn on the way.



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